Being Free, Being You, Taking Action

Unstoppable Confidence Part 2

How to Feel Confident all the Time!

Self-confidence is essential.

The power of the mind is truly remarkable.

How you feel in any given moment is linked to the following :

  • What you are focusing on
  • The way you are moving and using your body
  • The language you are using

No doubt, your mind controls all three.

The moment you feel lethargic or need an instant confidence or energy boost, just change the way you feel by changing the above 3 points.

1. What you are focusing on

Stay conscious of what you are focusing on in that particular moment. Are they negative and lethargic thoughts? Low in confidence? Are they indicating that you would not succeed? Are you telling yourself that you feel low in energy? If your answer is yes, change your focus. 

What would you have to focus on to feel vibrant and full of energy? What would you focus on to feel confident? On the other hand, if you are feeling vibrant and energized right now, what are you thinking about?

2. The way you are moving and using your body

This is also called your physiology. Emotion is created by motion, and the fewer movements you make the less energy you will have! Moreover, the type of movements you make either pump you up or make you languid and want to doze off. 

Observe your body when you are feeling low in confidence. Are you sitting down? Is your head up or down? Are your shoulders slouched? Are you walking slowly or quickly? Are your facial muscles moving? What are you doing with your hands?

Write down below all the characteristics of a confident person. Imagine there is a confident person standing in front of you right now. How would they be moving their body?

It’s your turn to feel energized and confident. Are you ready?

Great!

All you need to do is copy the movements that you just wrote down when you are feeling low and, guess what? You’ll become confident! You’ll feel confident!

3. The language you are using

The words you say to yourself, both in your mind and out aloud, will have an impact on how you are feeling. Remember? As we think, we become? If our thoughts are that powerful, imagine how powerful our spoken words are!

What words do you use to describe negative emotions?

Do you say things like…

  • “I’m feeling tired”
  • “I’m stupid”
  • “I’m angry”
  • “I’m livid”
  • “I’m overwhelmed”
  • “I’m depressed”
  • “I’m not as good as…”

Write down some more common phrases like those above that you use:

The intensity of those negative words will have an effect on how you feel and whether you feel confident or not.

What if instead of saying, “I’m really nervous”, you said to yourself, “I’m really excited”?

Would it make you feel better? Yes, of course it would.

The feelings and emotions linked to nervousness and excitement are actually the same. It’s just that you are giving the adrenaline right direction.

So, what other words could you replace the negative words with?

Try swapping the following :

Replace this

With this

“I’m feeling tired”

“I’m feeling unresourceful”

“I’m stupid”

“I’m learning”

“I’m angry”

“I’m a little annoyed”

“I’m livid”

“I’m a little miffed”

“I’m overwhelmed”

“I’m feeling busy”

“I’m feeling insecure”

“I’m questioning”

“I’m depressed”

“I’m not on top of things”

“I’m not as good as…”

“I’m aspiring to greatness”

As the intensity of the words lower, the intensity of the feelings lessen too.

Let’s move on with some simple exercises.

Write down 5 old negative sayings or phrases that you say on a consistent basis and replace them with new empowering and less intensified ones:

OLD NEGATIVE PHRASES

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5.

NEW EMPOWERING/LOW INTENSITY PHRASES

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5.

Just as you lower the intensity of words to lessen negative feelings, you can apply the reverse to feel magnificent and confident every single day!

Change your vocabulary to improve the quality of your day.

How?

Increase the intensity; increase the feeling when you use positive/good words.

Want an example? Here you go…

Instead of saying, “I feel good” say I feel fantastic!”

It’s that simple!

Change the following :

Change this

With this

“I feel OK”

“I feel awesome!”

“I feel motivated”

“I am compelled”

“I feel confident”

“I feel unstoppable”

“I’m energised”

“I feel empowered”

Change the “good” words of the present to “magnificent” words of the future.

When you implement this, the impact will be AWESOME!

OLD “GOOD” PHRASES

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2.

3.

4.

5.

NEW “MAGNIFICENT” PHRASES

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4.

5.

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