Choices, Purpose

Underlying beliefs

What are the things that stop us from fulfilling our dreams? That stop us from moving forward into our destiny, into our life purpose? What is it that stops us from making the changes in our lives that we long to make?

Underlying beliefs are things in our subconscious that we have developed over time, that we are not even aware of, that can sabotage our best efforts to change. Think of an iceberg. Only about 5-10% of the iceberg can be seen above the water, the other 90-95% is unseen below the water.     

Underlying beliefs can be positive or negative. It’s the awareness of what we believe.

Negative: “I am not good enough”. “My opinions don’t count”. “I don’t deserve love”. “I am unworthy”.

Positive: “I am me, and I’m ok”. “I have a voice and I have a right to be heard”. “I am loveable and deserving of love.” “I am worthy”.

Do you know that over the course of your lifetime you have developed thousands of beliefs? Some you are aware of, some you are not.

Underlying beliefs shape our behaviour and how we think about ourselves and our relationships.  They hide from our awareness. They are persistent thoughts, patterns, that keep coming up, usually when triggered by an external event or circumstance.

Underlying beliefs can be cultural or can be those given to us by our families, teachers, etc. such as values systems that are handed down to us.

How does it happen that we hold onto a belief that is not working for us? The answer is we don’t know we have them.  And when we see them, we don’t think we can change them.

Can we change our Underlying Beliefs?

The good new is yes we can! We can change negative underlying beliefs into positive beliefs and we are free to do so, and we are the only ones who can do it.

It is important to identify the beliefs that limit us. The best way to deal with an underlying belief is to acknowledge it when it surfaces, own it, accept it, and decide if it’s working for you or not, and if it’s not, change it. It’s all about self-awareness and that is 99% of the battle.

Some people call these underlying beliefs templates, templates we’ve developed over the years that make us believe, think and behave in a particular way, in response to events or circumstances that trigger a particular reaction or behaviour. And we can make new templates.

What we believe is key to overcoming the things that hinder us from achieving what we want to achieve. Whatever change we want to make, if we are to be successful in making that change, is dependent on what we believe. And what we believe is congruent with what we think.

Most of our beliefs lay below the surface; we can’t see them, but they are strong and powerful. They are the very core and strength of who you are. They are you, the you that you are today. They have been built over years starting from very early childhood. They are also, to a large degree, a result of decisions we’ve made, both conscious and unconscious.

Most of us at some time in our lives want to change the way we behave or react. We come to realise that what we’ve always done is not working. We become aware that something is just not right. Trying to find these beliefs hiding beneath the surface in our subconscious is difficult, but not impossible.

It begins with self-awareness which is the conscious observation of the way we think and act and is the first step to gaining insight into what lies below the surface. By discovering these underlying beliefs and dealing with them, it becomes possible for us to change our behaviour.

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