Well, I think you are, because I think you’re amazing, but let me explain in what context I am meaning.
Women are notorious for putting everyone’s needs before their own. As wives and mothers, we put our partner and our children first, and that is ok as long as our own needs are not neglected. But sadly they so often are.
When it comes to personal empowerment and the freedom to be who we are, we need to make ourselves the highest authority of our lives, not our spouse, our sister, our friend, our pastor, or our boss.
Here are some things I’ve discovered about women :
- They feel they need to ask permission to grow or to invest either time or money into themselves
- They will often find an excuse why not to invest in themselves
- They are fearful about what being successful will demand of them
- They believe they should not spend money on themselves, but put it toward their family, home, etc
- They let their doubts and insecurities stop them
- They neglect their own interests and put off what they want to do
I hear of women, who when their children have all left home, suddenly don’t know what to do with themselves. The house is empty and quiet. And we ask ourselves, what now? We have more time to pursue some of our dreams and desires that we have put on hold for years, but how do we do that? And those dreams and desires have been on the shelf for so long that we can’t remember where we put them, so we don’t know how to access them any more.
But I want to tell you that they are still there! And it is possible to re-discover them.
But another aspect of all this is that women often don’t feel worthy of investing in themselves to do the work required to re-discover those long-buried dreams and desires.
I know in these days of uncertain economic times, that money is at times hard to come by. But for some reason we do find the money to do a lot of things nevertheless. But are they things that will take us into our destiny?
So getting back to my original question: Are YOU worth it? It’s important that you believe in yourself, and believe in yourself enough to invest in yourself.
When Barbara Walters asked Michelle Obama if it were selfish that she openly makes herself her first priority she responded:
No, no, it’s practical… a lot of times we just slip pretty low on our own priority list because we’re so busy caring for everyone else. And one of the things that I want to model for my girls is investing in themselves as much as they invest in others.
Changing ourselves is the most noble and important thing we can do. We all want to make a difference in the world, but how do we do that if we are not willing to change something in our own world?